No More Tears

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Have you ever experienced so much sadness and wondered when will the tears stop? Around the time of Covid-19, my ex husband nearly died of an illness. He was in the hospital for 74 days and nights. It was a very sad time for me. Roughly two years later after 24 years of marriage, the same husband announced to me that he was leaving me the next day and did. It actually had been a marriage that probably should have ended a lot sooner, but for reasons I don't know completely, it continued until 2022. I can share that from 2020-2022 many tears were shed by myself. During the same period, there were some unpleasant sadnesses that occurred within my family which also caused me distress. During this time, my sister and I had grown very close and were using each other as anchors to get through some very turbulent times. My sister has a very empathetic heart and it was during this time, I had attended a woman's study group and there was a chapter about how middle eastern woman carried around tear jars (a 3,000 year old tradition). I had just read about the tear jars and a package came in the mail for me. My sister knew of all the heartache I was experiencing and she bought me the beautiful tear jar above. It was a reminder to me that no matter what I was facing, God was taking accountability of my suffering and every teardrop that I was crying. Even in the times when I felt myself alone, He is always there. So, more tears came as I was so touched by her caring heart. Attached to the jar is a card with the scripture on it. Psalm 56:8 -- "You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book." NLT

The middle eastern tear jars, as I researched, were mostly used during the time of grieving and as a symbol of a person's grief, the jars were then placed with the deceased to show the suffering they have endured and how much they were loved by that person. However, they were and are still used for periods of distress. After reading about this tradition, I wondered how many tears it would take to fill a bottle up.

Scientists have also studied that within the teardrops released through different emotions, there is a chemical difference in each one. I also find that interesting. I know I have had tears that just flow out naturally and without pain, then there are those which sting your eyes as they fall. I've cried happy tears, angry tears, tears of hurt, tears of rejection, tears of disappointment, tears of empathy, tears of frustration, tears of sadness, tears of grief and I've cried remorseful tears.. Sometimes the amount of tears cried change depending on the person who evoked them or the circumstance or duration of the event.

There were more than a couple times that circumstances involving my children caused my tears to fall. I have to say, those tears are one of the hardest for me. Those are the kind of tears that will make your eyelids swell shut. I don't like to disappoint my children at all.

I've also cried tears on behalf of my family and friends who are going through suffering. I would call these tears empathetic tears. Sometimes it is unimaginable to think what they must be going through and sometimes you can totally relate to their suffering.

Going back to the scientific study of tears, I wonder how they collected the tears and how they kept record of what tears went with each circumstance. I know for my own self, when recollecting my thoughts during the times of my suffering, it's funny how I can recall how different the tears felt.

Going back even further in time to when Jesus Christ was in the Garden of Gethsemane when Jesus was praying to the Father and feeling the burden of what he was about to do for humanity by crucifixion that the tears and sweat that flowed from his body actually produced blood droplets. It's said that when someone is in complete distress it is a condition called hematohidrosis. It's caused by extreme emotional or physical stress. Luke 22:44

I take comfort in the following verse: Revelation 21:4 -- "And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes, there shall be no more death no sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away." -- in referencing about no more tears in heaven.

I keep my sister's gift on my dresser. When I'm going through a difficult time, it is a reminder of who is with me during those times.


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